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Beliefs and arguments concerning phallic abilities, strengths, and foibles abound. When it comes to hardness, there are more than a few long-held myths that males have come to believe. These phallic fallacies are cause for great concern and anxiety, and affect not only sexuality but also overall quality of life. It's time men were able to differentiate hardness fact from fiction.
Fallacy #1
You already have rock-hard erections and don't have any problems initiating or maintaining your erections.
Reality:
That is probably not exactly true, and you know it. Always admitting to having a rock-hard erection is often a fallacy, just one of the many little lies that most men don't want to acknowledge to themselves, let alone to their sexual partners or male friends.
All men are at risk for erection problems, so don't delude yourself that if you are functioning adequately at 25 or 35 that you are going to continue to function just as well in later years.
Knowledge is power. When you know your hardness risk factors — diet, alcohol, drugs, and lack of sleep and exercise — you will be able to stop and reverse any erection problem you are having and prevent others from developing now, and in the future.
Fallacy #2
I'm 35 and have intercourse three times a week, therefore my erections are hard enough, and I'm OK.
Reality:
Again, don't delude yourself. Most men do not understand that they are always at risk of slowly diminishing hardness. My research has proven that there is great variation in EQ, the erection quality. While you seemingly have a healthy sexuality, this does not mean that your hardness factor is in the optimal or healthy range for your age.
I have found that while one 35-year old can have a rock-hard reading of 1150 grams on the Digital Inflection Rigidometer (the FDA-approved device I use for measuring penile axial rigidity, or the hardness of the erect penis), another 35-year old can have a hardness reading of 500, which is the bare minimum needed for penetration. While one man is functioning optimally, the other is borderline soft, which may be a tip-off to undiagnosed diabetes or blood pressure problems.
In your particular case, if you don't exercise regularly and eat a low-fat diet, you may actually be at the lower level of hardness and not even realize it. While you may be able to have intercourse several times a week, a low hardness factor reading oftentimes implies an undiagnosed or impending health problem.
Fallacy #3
I'm hard enough already.
Reality:
Oh, really? Granted, many men can have intercourse without optimal hardness but they are at high risk for eventual failure. A harder penis comes from increased blood flow to the penis, which means more penis sensitivity and optimal sexual pleasure. The Six-Week Hardness Factor Program will help you achieve optimal health and hardness.
Fallacy #4
Men are confident that they can perform on command, on a regular basis.
Reality:
Don't bet on it. Each erection requires an intricate biological orchestration involving the brain, neurons, and blood vessels. When it comes time to perform on demand, many men can't, no matter what they say. It will be difficult to initiate and maintain an erection if you have had too much alcohol, if you are a smoker, or if you are overly fatigued.
In addition, my erection studies have shown that a man's hardness diminishes with age. How he performs at 25 is vastly different from how he performs at 40 or 50 in regards to initiating and maintaining a hard erection. With good health practices outlined in the Six-Week Program, maximum hardness is assured.
Fallacy #5
If I cannot get hard, it's my partner's fault.
Reality:
The relationship with your partner is important and due to physical attraction or sexual experience, you may find that you respond more to one partner than you do to another. However, if you are consistently having trouble initiating and maintaining an erection, you are more likely to have an underlying hardness problem that makes it difficult to have sustainable erections with any of your partners.
Fallacy #6
My erection problems are linked to my blood pressure medication.
Reality:
Perhaps. Hypertension itself influences hardness by affecting blood flow, and that has to be acknowledged. Then, too, erection difficulties may be exacerbated by a particular blood pressure medication, so you need to speak to your doctor about switching to one of the dozen or so other hypertension drugs.
Fallacy #7
My partner is right to be upset that I don't come to bed with an erection.
Reality:
In most cases, the answer is no, your partner is not right to be annoyed. Too many people make the mistake of confusing matters of biology with matters of intimacy. Erections occur for a variety of reasons and, nine times out of ten, the act of going to bed is not erection-producing. However, if you have a willing partner who's eagerly awaiting you in bed, if you are planning on continuing what had been started elsewhere in the home, or if your imagination is enflamed with thoughts of past dalliances, you may have to rightfully use some care in getting into bed.
Fallacy #8
Antidepressant medications cause erection problems.
Reality:
Depression is a serious disorder that requires medical supervision and treatment. Some of the various antidepressant medications can have a negative impact on libido while others delay ejaculation. Speak to your physician about other medication choices if you have either of these hardness issues. With a vast armamentarium of antidepressants now available, you should be able to have powerful erections and satisfying sex without any problems.
Fallacy #9
I cannot have sex because I have had a heart attack.
Reality:
You may have difficulty achieving an erection because the same conditions that caused the heart attack — poor blood flow and circulation — influence your hardness. Cardiac medications you may be taking can cause erection difficulties, but they can be adjusted or changed. My bottom line: If you can walk up a flight of stairs — this is the amount of energy needed to have sexual intercourse — then you will probably be given medical permission from your cardiologist to have sex.
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